I’ve been doing a lot of inner work with my Inner Critic lately, and part of that work included reading the book Embracing Your Inner Critic, by Hal and Sidra Stone.Ā Their teaching includes the fact that the Inner Critic is entwined in our psyches with two other inner parts: the Rule Maker and the Perfectionist.Ā I had a major aha! moment when I read about these three parts, and immediately began working on cards for these new parts I’d discovered.Ā So here is my SoulCollageĀ® card for my Inner Perfectionist.
Who are you?
I am the one who has to do everything perfectly right, all the time.Ā I am the one who lies awake at night worrying and wondering how I can be sure to do everything perfectly the next day.Ā I am the one who spins my mind around and around until I’m dizzy with the desire to get everything just right.Ā I am the one who is centered in and focused on the gold star.Ā I am the one who loves to get the gold star each time.
What do you have to give me?
I give you the impetus to do your best work.Ā I give you the desire to do well.Ā I give you a good critical eye.
What do you want from me?
I want you to always do your best.Ā I want you to know that my energy gets out of control and keeps you up at night because you allow that to happen, and it doesn’t have to be that way.Ā I want you to remember that making a mistake is not the end of the world, and that you can learn from your mistakes too.