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Issue #123   September 2015 Theme:  Inner Perfectionist
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Anne Marie, the creator of KaleidoSoul.com
Hi! I'm Anne Marie, the creator of KaleidoSoul.com, and a SoulCollage® facilitator in Massachusetts. If you're just starting to sing your song with SoulCollage®, this column is especially for you.



The Tricky Triangle

This month's theme focuses on our Inner Perfectionist, so I want to share a bit about how this Neter sometimes joins forces with two other shadow Neters to form a "tricky triangle." These are the Rule Maker and the Inner Critic. My Perfectionist card is in the "KaleidoSoul Creations" column, to the right. In this column you can see my Inner Critic, Ethel, and my Inner Rulemakers.

I first heard about this Tricky Triangle in a wonderful book called Embracing Your Inner Critic by Hal and Sidra Stone. They talk about how these three parts work together as a twisted triumvirate.


Let's start with the Rule Maker. This inner part makes up the rules about what kind of a person we "should" be and what kinds of characteristics are unacceptable. The rule maker is usually formed early in life. It looks around, notices what's being rewarded and what's being punished, then develops a set of rules for us to live by, based on what it sees. This rule maker part is trying to keep us safe with these rules.

Now, let's talk about the Perfectionist. The perfectionist wants us to look perfect, act perfect and be perfect all the time, and in everything we do. This Neter doesn't tolerate a shoddy job. He or she loves to link arms with the rule maker because they looooove the idea of rules and thoroughly enjoy the process of carrying them out perfectly.

Last but not least, let's focus on the Inner Critic. The inner critic's original function is to spare us shame and pain; it wants to tell us something bad before someone else does. Here is something he/she says often - "If only you'd improve yourself, your life would be perfect." Once again here's the connection to the Perfectionist and Rule Maker. Your Perfectionist likes your life to be played perfectly by the rules and the Inner Critic criticizes you whenever that's not happening.

The Inner Critic's job is to get us to live up to the standards and rules that were set years ago by the Rule Maker. However, as you probably already know, this standard is usually impossible to maintain.

My intention here is to bring us into a greater awareness of all three of these inner parts so that we know what's happening when they start yammering away in our mind. Try the journaling questions that follow in order to help you separate from these three parts so that they are not the ones who are running your life!

Journaling Questions:

1. List some of the rules that your Rule Maker created for you when you were young. Which of these rules you are still living by today, even though they might not still be applicable to your life? Try not to judge yourself here; this is about awareness. Choose one old rule and set an intention to let go of it this month.

2. How has your Inner Perfectionist affected your life? If that's too broad, narrow it down to how this part has affected a certain relationship, job, hobby, passion, or dream. Create a card for this Neter and dialogue with it. What gifts does it have for you? How is it trying to help you?

3. In the past 24 hours, what has your Inner Critic said to you? Can you see how this part is intimately related to your Perfectionist and Rule Maker?

4. Write a dialogue among all three of these "Tricky Triangle" parts. How do they relate to one another? Do they have questions to ask of you?

 
Anne Marie Bennett is a writer, self-taught artist, website goddess, cancer survivor, and SoulCollage® Facilitator / Trainer who was mentored directly by Seena Frost. In 2005, she fell in love with SoulCollage® and was inspired to use her professional experience along with Internet technology as a means to serve the world by putting SoulCollage® "out there" in a really big way with KaleidoSoul. Anne Marie lives in eastern Massachusetts with her middle-aged husband, an elderly dog and two adolescent felines who keep them all young. You can read more about how SoulCollage® assisted her on her cancer journey on her website SOS Cancer Journeys.
 
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Guest Columnist: Linda Woolfson


I'm Linda Woolfson, MA, PhD, a SoulCollage® Facilitator & Trainer, writer, translator and creativity catalyst with a particular passion for bringing words and images together to fire our imagination and enhance our lives. This column explores  how you can use SoulCollage® to deepen your experience of the summertime.


Inner Perfectionist

In SoulCollage® Evolving, Seena Frost writes vividly about the many "different sub-personalities" of our Committee suit, chattering away day and night as if round a huge table having a meeting. "Some we know well," she says, "because they are quite conscious . . . . Some have a lot of energy while others have soft or subtle energy." Well, for many of us in our Western culture, the Inner Perfectionist has a huge amount of energy and an extremely loud and insistent voice!

Daphne Rose, my own Inner Perfectionist is the quintessential neat and tidy home-keeper. Her linen cupboard is immaculate. Nothing ever overlaps, gets tatty or caught in the door, and she never wears an apron when cooking because she's too deft, focused and well-coordinated ever to slop anything on her clothes.

I myself have never aspired to Daphne Rose's high domestic standards. However, with some other activities she can really get in the way: "When will you ever learn to file your work properly? Your incapacity to grasp the simplest thing about the hierarchy of information is absolutely embarrassing! " Or "Thirty years of driving and still you can't park properly! Just look at you to-ing and fro-ing ! And now you've scraped the car!"

When it comes to the things I really care about, such as creative writing and SoulCollage®, Daphne Rose's eloquence can be quite devastating: "So...you think you can create collages? What nonsense! Look at you - you can't even cut a straight edge, let alone use a craft knife properly!"

Yes, left to her own shrill-voiced devices, Daphne Rose can wreak havoc.

The Inner Perfectionist has a dark soul and fascinating connections with some other important Neters. Like the Critic (a close friend and ally) she plays a vital part in our creative process. The trouble with Daphne is not that she has nothing worthwhile to say, but more that her timing is terrible. There is something truly wonderful about aspiring to perfection. Without a vision to aspire to, where would our creativity be? Yet Daphne never quite learns that her moment of glory is brief - and right near the end of a project, never at the beginning or midstream! It can be wonderfully satisfying, when we've almost reached our creative goal, to spend time lovingly polishing the mosaic tiles, trimming the edges of the lawn with nail scissors or fine-tuning the punctuation. Daphne's really good at all of these and her contribution (within bounds) has genuine value.

You may find, as I do, that some particularly dominating Committee Neters can best be tempered by creating another presence in your deck - connected, yet crucially different. My Gentle Listener is wonderful at dealing with Daphne. He flows to the rhythms of the river of life, where the process not the product matters. He says, I am the one who is immersed in the silvery river of life. I listen without judgement to the rippling flow of your music. This moment we share is unique and I am loving it.

And sometimes Daphne actually stops and listens.!

So if you have an Inner Perfectionist who can sometimes become a tormenter, delve into your imagination and create someone to help you handle her. Best of all, put the two Neters into conversation - you're bound to enjoy the results.
 

Linda Woolfson, MA, PhD is a SoulCollage® Facilitator and Trainer, writer, translator and creativity catalyst. Of South African origin, she now enjoys living a dual-based life between the United Kingdom and Portugal, running SoulCollage® and creativity workshops, retreats & Facilitator Trainings in both countries. Linda has been exploring the creative process for many years and working with SoulCollage® since 2009. You can find out more about her activities on her SoulCollage® website and on her Facebook page.
 

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As promised, we are featuring SoulCollage® cards from our readers in each issue.

Each card below is a card that represents the Inner Perfectionist from one SoulCollager's Deck.




Cool, crisp, calm...Perfect!
Council Suit
Ann
California

I am the one who looks over your shoulder and points out "things." I have cool, clear perceptions and know the exact word and format for everything you write, for every picture your crop, for every communication you draft. I am ... the Editor to your Creative. We make a good team, now that I have learned to let you flow and go with the Wild Creative and especially now that you have learned to stop cringing at every suggestion. I admire your Spirit. Thank you for admiring my talent and skill with...everything else!




Comparison Queen
Committee Suit
Christie
Hawaii

I am the one who compares myself to impossible standards. I drag myself through my own insecurities. trying to measure up to younger, prettier, richer, perhaps superficial(?) facades. I am woefully unaware of the brilliance others might see shining behind me.




Inner Critic
Committee Suit
Carol
Oregon

I am one who expects you to do everything right and who badgers you if you fail. What is wrong with you?! I am one who expects you to get busy, get it right & live up to my expectations. You think I am grumpy but what I really am is sad. I just want you to do well & be appreciated for our efforts. You give me so little scope; it's like you never slow down to think how I feel. We need to work together more.




Perfectionist
Committee Suit
Anne Marie
Massachusetts

I am the one who has to do everything perfectly, ALL the time. I am the one who lies awake at night worrying and wondering how I can be sure to do everything perfectly the next day. I am the one who spins my mind around and around until I'm dizzy with the desire to get everything just right. I am the one who is centered in and focused on the gold star. I give you the impetus to do your best work. I give you the desire to do well. I give you a good critical eye. What I want is for you to ALWAYS do your best. I want you to know that my energy gets out of control and keeps you up at night because you allow that to happen, and it doesn't have to be that way. I want you to remember that making a mistake is not the end of the world, and that you can learn from your mistakes too.




Perfectionist
Committee Suit
Marcia
New York

I am the one who makes demands on you to live up to your idealized self-image of perfection.
I am the one who rules with an iron fist.





Perfection
Committee Suit
Judith
Maryland

I am the one who is the perfect hostess. My kitchen is spotless and orderly. But - keeping up appearances can be exhausting. Please note the drink in the hand and the knife to the heart. What do I really want to tell my inner perfectionist? Fork you!





Perfectionist
Committee Suit
Kate L.
Massachusetts

I am one who cannot present my work unless all the curves are lovely, the straight lines are straight and the pearls are perfectly cut. I will all too often spend many extra hours working on a project that for many, would be called 'done' at a much earlier stage, but for me, it's not quite 'there' yet. I am one who is a Perfectionist.




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Future themes include:

September: Perfectionist
October: Addiction
 

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